Summer 2023. It was 8:45am. Humid, already. The air smelled of that moment you duck out of the plane somewhere abroad after a dawn flight: sweet and unfamiliar. A feeling of being mildly judged for not really belonging there, but not enough to spoil anything. We crunched along the gravel of a pathway, through the... Continue Reading →
Managing Ethical Non-Monogamy during Difficult Seasons of Life
Mother's Day is coming up- show her she's special! Call your loved ones; they won't always be here. Easter Bonnet parade next Friday parents! Show us your most creative work! Did you drink any water today? Alexa, add tampons, cat food, Ibuprofen to the shopping list. And Fever Tree tonic. UK Economic Growth Forecast to... Continue Reading →
The Art of Solo Dating: Learning to Redefine and Embrace Connection from an Ethical Non-Monogamous Perspective
I'll admit that I sat for far too long trying to think of a fitting title for this post. I played with words and phrases such as independence, adventure, challenge, communication, tips, how to... and then promptly reminded myself that actually, I'm not one to sit here and pretend that I'm an expert in this... Continue Reading →
Vanilla, Karamel Sutra or Rocky Road? Choosing the Right Flavour of Ethical Non-Monogamy
Summer has flitted by in fits and starts here in the South East of England, and I've been enjoying the odd ice cream (or ten). At some point, I was sitting there pondering why I've never been the type to look undoubtedly sexy while eating a cone (you know, hair gently whipping in the breeze...sundress... Continue Reading →
Pride 2024- My Bisexual Desires
I've had many blog post topics floating around my head recently- some of them serious; some of them whimsical; some of them too vulnerable to share right now. But what feels most important during the month of June in the UK, is to perhaps lend some time to my own experiences of bisexuality, and to... Continue Reading →
Are Attachment Styles a Factor in Successful Ethically Non- Monogamous Relationships?
TL;DR: Yes. The end. Enjoy your tea and biscuits in peace. But if you have a little time on your hands, I think this is a super interesting and valuable topic to get into, whether you are single, 'looking', entering a new relationship, or have been with your partner/s for so long, that you're pretty... Continue Reading →
Sex Club Survival Kit
Items to Pack and Things to Unpack to Help Your Sex Club Visit Go Smoothly It was September 2022. My husband and I had arrived at our very first sex club event, run by the Bed Hoppers, and Wanderlust Swingers (UK swinging podcasters, and Aussie creators of swinging podcasts/ events around the world). We'd been... Continue Reading →
Hot Fucks and Head Fucks : The conflict between adventure and peace within Ethical Non-Monogamy
My thoughts on this topic resemble soft and silent snowflakes that land on the grass, having journeyed unseen from the sky above, and melt into the landscape without a solid breath. In essence, I've always had a subtle awareness that there's an ongoing quiet storm brewing in my mind... of having to weigh up the... Continue Reading →
New Year, New Me? … Hot Times, Tears and Tummy Tucks
***Trigger warning: pregnancy, traumatic birth story. (Skip the 'Tears' section to avoid)*** We are mere days away from the arrival of 2024, and I'm sitting in a borrowed rocking chair amidst strewn Christmas presents and a slightly lopsided tree...recovering from a major elected abdominoplasty and diastasis recti muscle repair surgery. As I enter the third... Continue Reading →
“Am I Enough?” The Impact of Self-Worth on Sex, Love, Relationships and Life
It's late November and as the sun begins to dip toward the horizon of another year, I can feel the warmth of nostalgia enveloping my brain. Swearing a little under my breath, I shove the top section of my artificial Christmas tree into the plastic trunk, ignoring the glances of my neighbour through the front-facing... Continue Reading →