Welcome!

So it seems that you’ve found yourself on a discrete foray into the world of ENM blogs…and I’m glad that you’re here!

Before you begin, if you were wondering who I am, and what makes me qualified to write a blog about ethical non-monogamy (with a particular focus on the ‘swinging’ spectrum) the answer is…nothing in particular! I’m a London-based bisexual woman in my mid-thirties, married to my husband, with a young family, and we’ve been navigating this lifestyle on and off for about five years, but definitely still learning.

However, I’m also a therapeutic counsellor and it has to be said that I’m increasingly passionate about the importance of maintaining healthy communication and positive mental health on the journey; a perspective that I hope all people will come to appreciate as they tiptoe through this site.

So, whether you’re simply curious about ENM/ swinging/polyamory; are just dipping your toes into the lifestyle; or have been around the block a few times or more, I hope that you’ll find something useful within these pages.

Perhaps a question to be raised with your loved one/s, or a reflection point about what the lifestyle means to you? Maybe something you read will feel new and surprising and you’ll want to explore and discuss further? Or- possibly you’ll feel right at home, comforted in the knowledge that you’re not the only one making awkward mistakes and navigating obstacles in the pursuit of a fulfilling new relationship dynamic!

Either way, stay awhile, get yourself a coffee, settle in and join me.